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I am back…

First and foremost, I would like to give a special shout out to all my blogging pals who- even in my absence never fails to drop me a tweet or two, a comment and reaction, poking my system and simply asking how things are. These may sound too simple but it mean so much to me because it tells me that you all care. You know who you are guys, so Thank You!

I am okay and in a very fine state, so.. no worries to you all. I am once again in an adjustment period which to my case will always leave me standing on a pedestal where it can easily cause me to stumble had I not watch my balance. I admit, I am pretty clueless, idea-less or somewhat speechless that is similar to what they call a ‘writer’s block’ except that I don’t consider myself a writer. I am currently taking career development steps that is basically the reason that takes most of my time lately, which will be beneficial to me and to the future of my family if I will succeed.

I need all the positive energy and vibes in the world. I need all the encouragement I can gather and embrace. Most of all, I need all the support and inspiration. As a come back, I want to share to you these inspiring words.

When kids starts to wear glasses

My daughter told me one day that a classmate of hers who is sitting behind her keeps peeping and copying from her notebook. I told her all she has to do is tell the kid that copying is bad. I know she can manage to deal with her peers so I wasn’t alarmed with the issue. I asked her who the kid was, and it happens that I knew who the kid’s mother as she is a very good friend and a former classmate in high school.

Several days after my conversation with my daughter, the kid’s mom who I said is my friend, posted on her Facebook that her kid needs prescription eyeglasses at a very young age. Right there and then I know the answer to my daughter’s concerns as to why her classmate keeps on checking her notebook or paper when they are writing.

I started wearing eyeglasses at very young age too. Nine years old to be exact and I was in fourth grade. I cannot remember how my mother discovered why I need one but I can still recall how I felt before I was wearing one.

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1. Having a hard time at school and reading problems

I belonged to a SPED section, it is homogenous selection in terms of general difficulty learning, difficulty in school average on grades. Bragging aside, I went to school in a classroom full of genius kids.  I reached the point where studying to cope isn’t fun anymore and I started not to enjoy it. I love reading and even that activity is a struggle. The lessons are hard to understand anymore as everything appears to be blurry or the alphabets on some words are not written as it should be. I can see numbers or other characters I don’t recognize in the middle of the word. I can see number 8 replacing the letter S all the time.

2. Eye Gestures

Squinting, winking, rubbing eyes often , frequent sets of quick blinking, covering one eye or alternately closing one eye from the other can help clear vision. I develop this habit to be able for me to focus more on the image or the board when the teacher is writing something. Normally, our eyes don’t do this gestures. To see the kids having to develop this habit is a way of telling us parents that something is bothering their vision focus.

3. Frequent headaches

I experienced having unexplainable headaches all the time. It usually goes away when I am doing nothing headachethat is stressful for the eyes, like playing dolls or running with my cousins. I complained a lot about getting headaches in school and I usually feel fine after classes. Parents , oftentimes fail to consider this seriously as it could be an abused excuse used by children to avoid going to school or to get the teacher to send them home when in school. I can remember my optometrist back then told my mother that my vision problems is 100% causing my frequent headaches.

 

4. Sitting close to the black board or to the television

Back in grade school the teacher arranged the sitting assignments of the class. I am a small kid back then but not the shortest , so, I was placed in the 2nd or 3rd line and  I always move to the front when I need to copy something from the board. I ended up not writing anything on kids loving TV, vision problems in childrenmy notebook if I am told to move back to my proper seat. Worst, I ended up not writing answers on my paper if the quiz questions are written on the board.

Watching television is something I am not fond of as a kid or even now that I have kids. If I do back then, I will be sitting so close to the screen for me to be able to enjoy the show.

 

5. Recognizing people from a distance

I got my first glasses a couple of weeks after I got home from Girl Scout Camping.  I can’t recall exactly but I think I did complain to my mother that the camping gave me a hard time. I was unable to recognize people from a distance. I had difficulty going to my troupe not unless I have a buddy with me. It is even harder to tell who I am really with since everybody is wearing uniforms and my means of identifying people I am with is through the colors of the clothes they are wearing.

I was told a couple of times that I am a snob because I don’t acknowledge those who greet me in a distance  or by those waving their hands at me when approaching. This situation really sucks. As kid, this is confusing.

Eyeglasses are not a very pretty accessory to wear when you are a kid at school. I have my own share of moments being teased and picked on because I am wearing one. Luckily, there are two other kids in class that was wearing a pair too when I started wearing mine. The impact wasn’t so bad and that they were already used to having a classmate with four eyes.

Few days after I saw the Facebook post of my friend, my daughter reported to me that her classmate is now wearing eyeglasses. I asked if he still peek into her notebook and she answered me “not anymore”. I made her realize that the classmate was doing that as he has vision problems. My kids know how important eyeglasses are as I am wearing one and they know how I depended my life to it. I asked her what her other classmates reaction was when they saw him come to class with it on and she told me a lot of the kids called him “Lolo” (Grandpa in Filipino) and a few others were laughing. I told my daughter never to tease the kid as it is not funny. I told her how I felt being picked on and I am sure she understand. I know my friend’s son will get used to it soon and and the classmates as well.

Sneezy Monday

Successive sneezing by me woke up my children this morning. Way too early before the alarm went off. My voice sounded funny and my nose turned red and it seems like nasal congestion has commenced. My throat hurts and my head is heavy. Yes, it definitely looks like viral colds and it hit me this time. The weather isn’t real friendly the past few days and I guess I wasn’t that careful too. Today’s forecast is just about the same and it looks like it will be cloudy, windy and with thunderstorms and  heavy rains for the rest of the week. Mr. Sun took some serious vacation leave from the looks of it.

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I love rainy days. But, I don’t think I will enjoy such weather if I am feeling sick and sneezing every five minutes. Remedies? I already have them lined up. Chicken soup, fresh fruits, lemon juice, eucalyptus and menthol vapor rubs, water therapy and my trusted, reliable, cold and flu type PANADOL tablets.

Coughs and common colds are upper respiratory problems that my kids frequently suffer several times within a year. Colds usually don’t attack me though I am never an exemption. The scenario of teary eyes, congested nasal tracks and loud sneezing usually happens when sudden change of weather from weakening hot and humid sunny days to an on and off drizzle-turned-thunderstorm days. For clarification; Weather, be it good or bad isn’t the cause of colds and flu but can trigger symptoms. Getting exposed to cold virus doesn’t necessarily mean getting the colds and coughs the very next minute. If your immune system is operating at its peak, it should actually be quite easy for you to resist and fend off the virus without ever getting sick. However, if your immune system is impaired,  it’s inviting and accessible to having an open-door policy for viruses; they’ll easily take hold in your body. So, a person catches  cold due to a weakened defense in the body’s immune system.

According to studies, having an impaired immune system per se, has lots of contributing factors. For adults like myself common factors can be any of the following;

  • Eating too much sugar and too many grains;
  • Not getting enough rest
  • stress of any type and form
  • Vitamin C and D deficiency
  • any combination of the above

As much as I would like to talk about colds and flu, the subject is broad and my current sneezing situation is very uncomfortable. Besides, colds are easy to treat if addressed properly. Frequent hand washing is always a good precaution. Balance diet and exercise  never fails to give good results and nothing will ever go wrong when the body is well rested.

Stay safe!

HUNGER is not a GAME

 

Last night, my daughter stubbornly complained of not liking the dinner. She took a spoonful or two and started playing with it. She was about to throw a tantrum drama but since I am not in the mood to put up with it I let her leave the table and I ended up eating what is on her plate. My children(my daughter most of the time actually)has this attitude of pushing away their plates with left-over food and leaving the table when they feel they don’t want to eat anymore. Embarrassing as it is on my end because it looks like I failed as a parent to impose discipline in this type of table manners. I left to work overseas when both are still young and I felt guilty for doing so sometimes. God knows how much I tried my best to teach them right from wrong and the good moral values that an individual should master by heart. I feel bad whenever they ignore the food served on the table because it is not of their favorite or something that would suit their taste buds..which mainly are vegetables! I gave them the freedom to serve themselves so they will learn to estimate the amount of food that they can consume. Most of the time they clean their plates but each time they have left-overs or a half eaten cookie in the trash can, I can’t help but solemnly assessing myself on my credibility as a mother.

They are not picky eaters but like most kids they have their favorites. I know I always sound like a bad record playing or a pirated music CD when I keep telling them this:

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With the aid of photos from the internet of kids in hunger somewhere in Darfur Sudan, Somalia or even the indigent, needy and malnourished of our very own Philippines, which I showed them from time to time whenever I have to, just so they will have an idea and hopefully will realize the very thought.

I even showed more disturbing photos of children suffering of famine in their own countries and doesn’t have a choice but to live with it. I will look at their reaction and would see that the realization creeps in but still they tend to forget. Every now and then, I visit the orphanage in our town and take along the kids with me so they will have the actual picture of what it is like having the least than what they have.

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the children Gloria Christi Regis Center Home for the orphans and the street children 

Sometimes, I am tempted to let them experience starvation with plans in the back of my mind not to cook and prepare meals or not to buy anything to stock the house with munchies, but then again, the mother in me can’t even bear the thought let alone dare of actually doing it.

I am fully aware that I am not the only parent dancing in this kind of tune. It is not just the food actually that I want them to value but the privilege of being provided of human being’s basic needs. I prayed for them to be forever grateful of their blessings, to be contented and humble because I hate to think that in order for them to realize is for them to experience hunger not as a game but in reality.

What’s your stand?

Browsing sites and reading tweets online, I came across Ms.Lea Salonga’s tweet about her stand on the issues of GAY MARRIAGE where Pres. Barack Obama has clearly voiced out his say. Been hearing a lot about this lately, though I actually don’t care which stand to believe because either way is fine.

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I love Ms. Lea Salonga ever since I was little. She is my favorite voice behind some Disney Princesses that I like and it is because of her that I was obsessed with Ms.Saigon music records years ago. I just didn’t get any chance at all to watch it on stage but to be able to see the play someday is still among my bucket list. Anyway, what caught my attention was her tweet saying “Go ahead and ignore my singing… but here’s my stand on gay marriage.” –  I can actually ignore the stand about gay marriage because it is what I am doing since the issue was out but the singing???- Come on! I can’t do that. Ms. Lea Salonga singing is less likely to be ignored, not to me at least. So yeah.. I don’t think anybody can ignore this kind of singing. Check this out!

Ms. Lea Salonga’s stand on Gay Marriage

 

So what is my stand?

Same as previously stated. EITHER WAY IS FINE. If I live in a country where it is not allowed, then I can live with that. I am not gay and it will never affect me in any way. On the other hand, I always believe that people can choose who they want to marry and so I am just as happy as the gay people knowing that there are actually places in the globe who supports what their hearts wanted to say. Meaning, there is always a choice though it involves a little bit of relocation.

I am neither Democrat nor Republican, of course that is obvious because I am not a citizen of the United States and I am not a fan of Pres.Barack Obama or any other President for that matter. Don’t get me wrong, I practiced my right to vote and I take that fundamental human right seriously. I have my own world I guess because I am not politically attached. His statement didn’t influence me on my stand on gay marriage(as I don’t have any!) nor Ms. Lea Salonga’s expressed stand with her singing. I have gay people close to my heart and I just wanted them as they are. They can marry or not and that is totally up to their heart’s content.

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Follow Ms.Lea Salonga on Twitter: @MsLeaSalonga

or visit her website: www.leasalonga.com

note to self

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As soon as I opened my eyes this morning or just about 45 minutes ago, I smiled. Finding my children awake a little bit ahead of time than I did is not common. It means, I don’t have to shake and scream at them to get up and get going so they won’t be late for swimming training  and since my day already started good enough, I guess it won’t hurt if I add one small positive thought and hoping it would last the day.

So, here is a thing for the mind:

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I’ll be off to kid’s school for enrollment. Expecting long lines and bitching parents, snobbish school staff and annoying tuition fee increase on student accounts statement that I will be receiving later, hence I will keep in mind that I need to be awesome today. How to do it? I exactly don’t know.. So help me God!

Have a good day everyone!

Mom’s best lessons in life

 

Life’s lessons in general are always taught by our mothers when we were young. Growing up. the lessons I’ve learned were added up with some of those I eventually earned bumping to situations that I myself needs to handle from time to time. When I was barely two years old, my father died and so my mother raised me and my younger sister on her own. Of what I turned out to be, I owe it all to my mother. I will always be grateful for anything and everything she has done for us. For the unconditional love and selfless sacrifices over the years, for believing in our strengths and encouraging our little hopes and dreams, for simply being a mother the best she can be.

Among the thousands of things that I learned, these are the few that would always make me think of her.

 Love for God – She taught me how to pray and showed me that to be faithfully religious is my only source of strength when times get rough. I grew up not having all the convenience and luxury that life can offer but my mother told me that to be caught in the middle of life’s strongest storms is never a reason to be weak.

To appreciate and be thankful for blessings – “Never bite the hand that feeds you” I once heard this line from her though she never elaborate how that is supposed to mean but my young and innocent mind back then interpreted it as to be always grateful for what I have and for what others has done for me.

To value Education – my mother is a teacher and so it is not a bewilderment to get lectures about doing good in school and studying well. Apart from that, my mother never fails to remind us that education is the only wealth that no one can stole from us and the only wealth a person can take to his grave. I took this advice seriously and constantly remind myself of this thought when I was schooling, however I find it very hard to make my children understand how important education is. I wail and whine to my mother and denounce that my children seems to be taking education for granted.

Respect – She led by example and I learned with her actions that respect is earned only when one knows how to value it. In order to be accepted by others, it is important  to respect one’s self and the people around.

The list is endless when we will talk about our mothers and their greatest lessons in life. As they said, to become a mother is the hardest job on Earth. May it be good or bad, behind every living individual, there’s always a mother’s lesson treasured for life.

The Lover’s Dictionary

 

I saw this book flooding the “must-read” shelves of every bookstore I went into a-few months back. I completely ignore the urge to pick it up or read it’s back cover review. I thought the tittle alone describes it perhaps and as of that moment a highly romantic-chic-flick-type of book wasn’t a priority for purchase.

This review is actually, well… long over-due for a write up. I have finished reading about a week ago after deciding to go ahead and give my ebook copy a try; mainly because of a friend’s high praise and recommendation (Thank’s to you ChaEstra!). The reason I said it is long over-due because, I had countless times trying to construct and draft a review but I couldn’t come up with an idea on how to do it. I am hoping that I would be able to present what I truly feel and how I was intensively connected when reading it. I am afraid  that to write a review by only saying how I love it is an understatement specially on a book that is written in a  radically distinctive, highly unusual and one of it’s kind novel by David Levithan.

As I have said, the cover indeed says it all. It is a DICTIONARY and it is a NOVEL. Even with the recommendations and stuff, I dared not to check other reader’s feedbacks and reviews. Interested of how intriguing this book’s impression at my end, I seemed to be looking and wanting to surprise myself and it did.

The plot is a narration of a love story of the nameless narrator’s relationship to a lover whom he(was the narrator a HE?) met on an internet dating site. The narrator was a HE alright, because he mentioned of playing the role of “Kurt” in “The Sound of Music” stage play when was eight. As I was saying, this is a NOVEL that is telling a story in a manner that is cleverly presented using carefully chosen complicated and some unornamented, rare and common words. Beautiful words that most of us haven’t taken the time to speak anymore or not at all. The words are arranged in alphabetical order such as a dictionary, over which the definitions are incidents, moments, ideas, emotions, dialogues and reactions of both the narrator and his lover.

This is a love story that is full of intimacy and rawness. The writing is simple yet the concept is refreshing, excruciating and powerful. The ups and downs of their relationship are realistic. At some point, I was able to connect on certain passages and situations where personal experience just looked similar. I was entertained on how hilarious and humorous some chapters are. I read slowly and surely. Digesting each word entry and it’s description. I flipped back and re-read pages several times and truly connecting with the idea of it. I smiled, smirked, giggled and laughed as I went word for word and exhale romantic sighs at the fairly familiar lines that somehow hit me close to home. The words are arranged chronologically hence the timeline of the story jumps from one situation to another making the structure of the writing more exhilarating to which as a reader, it is making me constantly impatient with anticipation on the outcome of the story and excited on what the new chapter would bring. For a love story that started on an internet dating site, this novel is complete and applicably realistic.

For those who are confused and weighing the rocks of the relationship, this book will give you ideas. How to spot issues that are better dealt beforehand than later.

For those who are un-attached, this book is an inspiration.

For those who are in relationship of unconditional feeling of love and commitment like myself, this book is making me more and forever in-love and happy of what  I truly have now in my hands because I can never imagine a life of ME outside US.

This is a painful and sad story which is only thing I hate of this book. Everyone loves a happy ending may it be in real life, in a story or in movies and everyone deserves joy in life, who doesn’t?. In all fairness, David Levithan is a good writer. This is the first I read of his works and I’m glad it is this book.

Since this novel is a dictionary at the same time, I guess a review won’t be complete if I can’t come up with my top words listed as favorites. I actually have lots on the list but I chose the ones having a line or two, or a couple more as definitions. I will leave the rest to you, my dear readers to find out the rest.

Here goes:

misgivings, n

Last night, I got up the courage to ask you if you regretted us .

“There are things I miss” you said, “But, if I didn’t have you, I’d miss more”.

breathtaking, adj.

Those mornings when we kiss and surrender for an hour before we say a single word.

basis, n.

There has to be a moment at the beginning when you wonder whether you’re in love with the person or in love with the feeling of love itself.

If the moment doesn’t pass, that’s it—you’re done. And if the moment does pass, it never goes that far. It stands in the distance, ready for whenever you want it back. Sometimes it’s even there when you thought you were searching for something else, like an escape route, or your lover’s face.

Ineffable, adj.

These words will ultimately end up being the barest of reflections, devoid of the sensations words cannot convey. Trying to write about love is ultimately like trying to have a dictionary represent life. No matter how many words there are, there will never be enough.

reservation, n.

"There are many times when I worry that I’ve already lost myself. That is, that my self is so inseparable from being with you that if we were to separate, I would no longer be. I save this thought for when I feel the darkest discontent. I never meant to depend so much on someone else."

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